Enduring Love: Sanctified Unselfishness

“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; loves does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own…”  (I Corinthians 13:4-7)

The Greek words for “love suffers long” are often translated patience, but they actually prescribe a merciful, unconditional love – a love that does not avenge itself, even when it has the right and opportunity to do so. The Greek word for kindness means love is easy – easy to approach, easy to live with, sweet, good and does good things.

Love does not envy.” The Greek words Paul used here prescribe “an unselfish and unconditional commitment to another’s well-being.”

In other words: sanctified unselfishness.

Those applying this love are not only concerned about the welfare of the one they love, but they have made a deliberate and unconditional commitment to their happiness. Their love commitment is not, ‘I love me and I need you” or “You love me and so do I.” They are saying by their love actions, “I am fiercely committed to your well-being and happiness; my love for you is not based on, controlled, or even influenced by the ways you do, or do not, love me.”

Think of how critically this quality of love is needed when a spouse has Alzheimer’s disease, a stroke, accident, or illness.

The biggest problem in relationships can be summed up in one word: selfishness. Therefore, the greatest cure for relational problems can also be summarized in one word: unselfishness.

This love virtue of unselfishness is repeated for emphasis and listed between good manners and being unflappable, because Paul wants to underscore in our hearts that as conduits of the love of Christ:

Love does not seek its own (way.)” 

Dick Woodward, from A Prescription for Love

One Response to Enduring Love: Sanctified Unselfishness

  1. Marcy Schuring says:

    Impossible. It is humanly impossible to love this way. But God. Always, with the indwelling Holy Spirit in my life – “I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me.” In Him alone -in His enabling power (available time me when I ask Him to fill and contol me). This is HUGE for me personally. Gives me hope. Otherwise I despair. God’s ongoing work in me, through the power of His Spirit in me is the ONLY reasons can I find lasting change. And the ability to “love unconditionally as He loves.”
    I PRAISE GOD for His “unspeakable gift”!!!

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