What is a Mother?

May 8, 2015

Blessed is every one who fears the Lord, who walks in His ways. When you eat the labor of your hands, you shall be happy, and it shall be well with you. Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine in the very heart of your house, your children like olive plants all around your table.” (Psalm 128:1-3)

When you meditate on these verses in Psalm 128 that describe the role and function of a wife and mother, you can paraphrase them this way: a mother is a man-maker.  She is like a fruitful vine in the very heart of her husband’s home.  To borrow a metaphor from the very beginning of the Bible, she is a completer whose passion is to see that her husband becomes all that His Creator designed him to be.

She is a people-maker because she gives him children who are like fruitful plants around his table.  Many people would like to put a period after the fourth word of this psalm and say that everyone is blessed or happy, but that is not the way the psalm reads.  The blessing on this man comes because he meets conditions: He walks in the ways of God.

The other verses of the psalm tell us this is how God blesses and impacts the world.  He finds a blessed man, joins him to a blessed woman, and gives them blessed children.  They impact Zion- which is the spiritual community- and then this family unit fruitfully impacts the city and the country.

A mother is at the heart of this great strategy of God.  As such she is also a home-maker and a memory-maker.  What a great and noble calling!

Rise up and call your mother blessed this Sunday!

Dick Woodward, (07 May 2011)

A Two-Way Street

January 27, 2012

“For if I make you sorrowful then who is he who makes me glad but the one who is made sorrowful by me?” (2Corinthians 2: 2)

In this verse the Apostle Paul is telling us that relationships are a two-way street.  Whatever we send down that street comes back up that street.  Paul could have learned this from Jesus when he spent three years with Him in the desert of Arabia (Galatians 1: 15-20).

Jesus taught this same truth when He used a marketplace metaphor.  In the marketplace if another vendor bought produce from you and you suspected his bushel measurement was inaccurate, you could ask him to go get his bushel measurement when you sold to him.  In this way Jesus was teaching that whatever measure we use in giving to people they will use that same standard in giving back to us (Matthew 7 1-5).

By application, Paul and Jesus were teaching that in our marriage and family if we make people unhappy we will find ourselves living with unhappy people who were made unhappy by us.  I knew a wise pastor who did a lot of marriage counseling.  He wrote a little poem that had this line in it: “You can’t control the weather or rainy days but you can control the emotional climate that surrounds you.”

If you can surround yourself with unhappy people because you make them unhappy consider how much better it would be if you made those same people happy.  Another wise pastor said that with Jesus the main things are the plain things and the plain things are the main things.

The bottom line is do we want to be surrounded by happy or unhappy people?  What are we sending down the two-way street of our relationships?